When I'm unavailable due to distance or emotion, he tends to try harder.
When I come around emotionally or when he gets back into town from a trip,
he is suddenly no longer interested in spending time or even talking to me.
I've been working on coming to terms with this weird push-pull.
While we haven't been dating over the last several months,
I wanted to believe something was there over these last weeks.
I wanted to believe all the best in him that I knew I had seen.
I wanted to believe that D and I would work, were PTSD not involved.
I hope I can truly say that this particular roller-coaster ride is over.
It is not uncommon for people in my life to tell me they will do something
but not follow through for one reason or another. Often waiting until
the very last moment, or beyond, to cancel or make an excuse for backing out.
Over the last year the lack of respect in this has become increasingly irritating.
Still, every time D did it, I made an excuse for him, PTSD. Even upset, I let it go.
He's been doing it more and more lately, then flashing a smile and asking
me to forgive him as though he had no control over the circumstances.
This afternoon he tried it again, this time cutting an entire evening of plans
down to what would amount to an hour on Friday for a quick dinner.
I told him that if I'm not important enough to make time for, then to forget it.
I truly think he thought he would call my bluff by saying, "Forget it then."
I told him "Thanks for letting me know." I'm sure he was waiting for more.
I started to tear up and then I told myself, this has nothing to do with you.
He has proven himself not worth my time and energy any longer.
As I told a friend, "That could change in 10 minutes..." but it hasn't yet.
I think that when he realizes I really am upset enough to not care anymore
he will try to get back into my good graces. That's how this game is played.
I pray I have the strength to resist. I pray God takes my feelings for him
and tosses them deep into the sea, leaving them there, on the ocean floor.
In the battle of self-respect vs a man's attention there should be a no contest.
Should be no contest. Those are some very important words there.
Does that mean he won't try again? No. Does that mean I wont fail? No.
But to get back to that healthier person I thought I was a few months ago
I am going to have to try harder than I have been, and be more determined.
Prayer changes things. I know this. Please pray for me. With God I know I can do this.
Pray for us, for our conscience is clear and we want to live honorably in everything we do.
~Hebrews 13:18
~Hebrews 13:18
She is clothed with strength and dignity, and she laughs without fear of the future.
~Proverbs 31:25
Pray
for us, for we are sure that we have a good conscience, desiring to
conduct ourselves honorably in all things - See more at:
http://bible.knowing-jesus.com/topics/Self-Respect#sthash.ss31L6We.dpuf
Pray
for us, for we are sure that we have a good conscience, desiring to
conduct ourselves honorably in all things - See more at:
http://bible.knowing-jesus.com/topics/Self-Respect#sthash.ss31L6We.dpuf
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